Gain emotional wellbeing
ELISABETTA FRANZOSO explains the connection between wellbeing and feelings, the sixth focus of the Wellness Inventory Wheel.
From the moment we’re born, we experience emotions. Emotions can be intense and wonderful, but can also be misunderstood and mistreated.
Reality Check Our emotions serve to motivate thought and action. Imagine how boring life would be without them! But as we grow older, we often judge, repress, drug, swallow, worship or turn away from our emotions.
Insight We only feel whole, fully human and alive when life is filled with emotion. From our earliest years, many of us have been conditioned to label some emotions as “good”, while others are “bad”. We’re taught while it’s acceptable to feel happy, expressions such as anger, sadness, frustration and fear can make others uncomfortable. And while some feelings are approved of and can be practiced openly, others should be avoided.
Result Children are aware of four basic emotions – joy, fear, sadness and anger, encompassing the full spectrum of human feelings. Due to poor emotional intelligence, some of us have a dulled awareness of emotions, accepting the notion that some feelings are “bad”. At the same time, we may wonder why our lives aren’t richer, or more satisfying.
Moving Forward There are no “good” or “bad” emotions. Emotions can be categorised, but they are only part of our entire experience. All emotions can be felt and expressed in a healthy manner.
Result Increasing your energy, wellbeing and ability to feel “alive” means becoming aware of your feelings. Start by embracing all kinds of feelings and develop healthy ways of managing and expressing your emotions. The creative tension of joy and sadness any moment may hold can only reenergise and spice up your life, allowing you to achieve great results in your family life and at work!
Q. How is emotional awareness connected to emotional intelligence?
A. Emotional intelligence is your ability to monitor your own and others’ feelings, to distinguish them and use this information to guide your thoughts and actions. Emotional awareness sets the foundation for emotional intelligence. The ability to know and embrace your emotions allows you to achieve true happiness and success.
Q. How can I increase my emotional awareness?
A. Ask yourself “What am I feeling?” throughout the course of each day. This is the first – and simplest step – towards increasing your emotional awareness.
Elisabetta Franzoso BA, Dipl.Psych, MSocSc
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Elisabetta Franzoso is a highly self-driven coach and motivator who focuses on communication, self-expression and wellbeing. Her passion is to empower people to achieve excellence and transformation from the inside out. To complete your Well-Being Inventory Index and get your detailed personal Health and Wellness Assessment, contact Elisabetta and her team of professional Life Coaches, Psychological Counsellors, Fitness Trainers, Nutritionists, Physicians and Body Therapists.
